You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
A new year presents us with a wealth of possibilities; 365 opportunity-filled days to get it right.
While 2017 may have been a rough year for world relations (annnd I’ll leave it at that), it ended up being one of the most wonderful/incredible/overwhelmingly awesome chapters of my life thus far. To summarize the last triad of years: I wouldn’t wish 2015 on my worst enemy, and although 2016 was certainly a step-up on the suckiness scale, 2017 managed to completely blow all previous years (well, at least the ones I can remember) out of the water. Chasing love and adventure out west, figuring out what I truly want out of life, inching closer to finishing my Master’s Degree, and making new friends and memories were just a few of the highlights that made this year so special. For those who may be interested: I recapped the last year of my life in Texas a few weeks back. There were lows, of course—my first couple of months in this new town were filled with many a lonely nights—but what ultimately made those situations tolerable was the way I handled them. I could have easily chosen to sulk around 24/7 and wallow in the fact that I had no friends in this unfamiliar place. Instead, I set out to immerse myself in as many new experiences as I could, garnering a handful of friends along the way.
So much of your life relies on your attitude. Rarely can you change your circumstances, but you can almost always change the way you look at things. I think we all tend to forget that at times. I know I sure do. In the past, I’d curate a list of new year’s resolutions each December and vow to follow them to the best of my ability; however, the older I get, the more I’ve attempted to motivate myself to set goals regularly. A clean slate is an appealing notion, but why wait to better yourself? One of my favorite goal sheets as of late is from Move Nourish Believe (it’s also FREE!); I try to print these out at least 3-4 times throughout the year to track my progress. I won’t bore you all with my interminable list of goals for 2018, but I do want to share 3 that I feel would significantly better not just me, but also humanity, as a whole:
1. Be kind.
In a world where you can be anything, be kind. An old adage that my mother used to regularly say to me was: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” As a twenty-something year old adult, this has become my life mantra. I see absolutely no reason to be mean or vindictive to another human being. If someone has wronged you, forgive them, move on and use that energy on something constructive. We don’t all walk around with signs plastered on our foreheads that showcase what we’re going through at the moment, but I bet if we did, people would be a whole lot nicer to one another.
2. Be a glass-half full kind of person.
Somehow, someway, I’ve conditioned my brain to instinctively the worst. Sore throat? I obviously have tongue cancer, it was nice knowing you all. A message from my professor appears in my inbox a week before the semester ends? Clearly I’m going to receive a zero on my final assignment, guess I should just throw in the towel now and prepare to the fail the class. Yeah, no. It’s time I put an end to the perpetual negative thinking. This is something I’ve been working on intently over the last few months and hope to greatly improve upon this year.
3. Be more present in the moment.
As tempting as it is to document my every move (blogger probs), there’s not a question in my mind that it takes away from the experience. Frankly, I can’t even recall the last time I went to a concert and didn’t see a room full of phones out (mine included) recording the entire show. Sure, this morning’s brunch may have looked like a modern-day masterpiece, but does anyone really care? While I will continue to capture my travels and coerce my boyfriend into taking adorable pictures with me, technology and I are going on a much needed break (sorry iPhone, it’s not you, it’s me).
If 2017 was a difficult year for you, I hope you find solace in knowing that things will get better. It may not be today or tomorrow, but they will get better. If 2017 brought you everything you could have ever dreamed of, I’m sending you an air high-five right now. Either way, the best is yet to come.